You Are Doing Better Than You Think You Are

Recently I found a journal that had entries ranging from Jr. High up till I started college. As I read through all the journal entries, my initial reaction was to be embarrassed. My behaviors and thoughts were immature. It was obvious I was a much younger version of myself, though we all know I can still be pretty immature. I remembered a talk given by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland in October 2017. He spoke:

“Leo Tolstoy wrote once of a priest who was criticized by one of his congregants for not living as resolutely as he should, the critic concluding that the principles the erring preacher taught must therefore also be erroneous.

In response to that criticism, the priest says: “Look at my life now and compare it to my former life. You will see that I am trying to live out the truth I proclaim.” Unable to live up to the high ideals he taught, the priest admits he has failed. But he cries:

“Attack me, [if you wish,] I do this myself, but [don’t] attack … the path I follow. … If I know the way home [but] am walking along it drunkenly, is it any less the right way simply because I am staggering from side to side?

“… Do not gleefully shout, ‘Look at him! … There he is crawling into a bog!’ No, do not gloat, but give … your help [to anyone trying to walk the road back to God.]”

Some Things Don't Change

Some Things Don’t Change

I was reminded that we are all on a path and as long as we are walking along it, we are doing okay, even if we are staggering. I am reminded how far I’ve come, and in more ways than one.

I found a letter in my journal from a teacher for an achievement award in 9th grade that said:

“Megan has been in my classes the last 3 years. She is very dependable and a hard worker, who always does her best. She helps those around her and is always willing to help anyway possible. She is positive, energetic and very fun to have around. She is one of those students that you love to have in class. Megan is looked up to by her peers. Because Megan is so trustworthy, I have also had Megan as a Student Aide. She is a good example of leadership and behavior. She has lots of friends which shows how well she is respected. Megan is extremely nice, kind-hearted, thoughtful and considerate.”

When I found this letter, my heart smiled and I was grateful for this teacher who wrote such a thoughtful letter.  Though I have come far and I feel I am a different person than I was in my teenage years, I’m not far from the person I was then or when I was born. I am me and will always be that person. The same characteristic traits my 9th grade teacher described of me for the most part still ring true today. They are a part of who I am. I can’t change that.

As I was pondering these experiences, I had a thought of how I always ask in my prayers to “Help me become the person I need to be.” The thought was followed with this important truth. You are who I need you to be. Be the person I made you to be NOW.” God equips us with what we need right now to be who we need to be. I can be the wife I need to be because I was given a husband who sets a great example of a good relationship. I can be the mom I need to be because my children are teaching me every step and because I was given an angel mother who sets the best example of unconditional love. I am the leader I need to be because God gave me unique talents that help me to fulfill my purpose while on earth. If we feel we don’t have the right examples to help teach us, then it is up to us to find examples we can emulate and learn from. Possibility is within our reach and can only be made if we start somewhere.

Sometimes we have a measure of where we would like to be and we feel as if we are not measuring up. If you look back, you might find that you are further along than you thought. You might have just been staggering side to side not realizing the progress you were making. Sister Carol McConkie says, “We have different gifts and different strengths. First Corinthians chapter 12 emphasizes the need for sons and daughters of God, each one of us, to fulfill our individual roles and responsibilities according to the Lord’s plan, that all may benefit.” Speaking to mothers, Elder Jeffrey R. Holland tenderly exclaimed, “To all mothers in every circumstance, including those who struggle — and all will — I say, be peaceful. Believe in God and yourself. YOU ARE DOING BETTER THAN YOU THINK YOU ARE.”

I believe in you. I believe you can make miracles happen. And I believe that peace (true inner peace) is the answer.

 

Life Coaching Helped Me To Find Out Who I Am

During 2013-2014 I took a life coaching course from Master Coach Kimberly Giles at Clarity Point Coaching (http://www.claritypointcoaching.com/). This was a three month course with a weekly phone call. I was hesitant to pay the price, but knew I needed help changing my mindset. I had been struggling with postpartum depression and knew that some of my suffering (though I still needed medication), was due to my ignorance, so-to-speak, of life. It was a life changing experience that helped me through some of life’s most difficult circumstances. I am and always will be grateful for Kim’s training. At the end of the training, Kim had me write a Who Am I paper. I used several of her words throughout her readings to create a piece of who I am. Kim gave me the permission to publish this article. I look back at what I wrote now 3 1/2 years ago. The amazing thing is I haven’t changed. This is still who I am. My value has never changed. Am I perfect at believing and acting upon these words? NO! Kim told me it would be a daily process as this life is a classroom. We are learning every day. Hope you can enjoy and maybe pull out some truths that ring true for you, as we are all created differently. WHO ARE YOU really??

Who Am I

The truth is-I am Megan Hastings. I am compassionate. I am beautiful inside and out. I am poised. I have characteristics and gifts that are unique only to me. I accurately see people for who they are. I value the need for meaning and clearly see who I am in this moment. I know my worth is absolute and infinite. I put problems and obstacles in proper perspective and I know good things always happen to me. I am a confident and honest woman who uses my knowledge to bless others.

I get to choose love motivation in everything I do. I have nothing to prove as I cannot fail. I look for opportunities to edify people every day. I ask questions to listen and validate people, thus choosing love. I see negative thoughts and emotions as they are…distractions. In every situation I choose to focus on validating others. When receiving validation, I always make it about others.

I no longer allow comparing of other people. I know this truth that, “The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you..except for yourself.” For this reason, I question my motivation for doing things. I will do things out of love and trust and because I want to. I will also claim the right to be quiet if that is how I feel. I do not allow the moods of others to influence mine. I know that we are all good people, we just struggle on occasion. When I see others as myself, I will see them with wisdom and compassion. When I serve God and myself first, I am able to help others.

I am creating the life I want right now. My purpose in life is to learn, which is why I will not let mistakes and weaknesses define me. I will set a new standard as I reclaim my power to choose my mindset. Though my subconscious mind is faster, my ability to consciously choose is always stronger. Suffering is created when I resist the process and the growth. I do not doubt my abilities and I do not shrink from my challenges. I trust God, the Universe and the process of life. I am strong because I choose trust. I know that with every fiber of my being that I was born to win. I know that I have the ability to create what I desire. I have free agency so I can decide who I want to be and live my life to the fullest.

I trust my first impressions because I trust myself and I trust that Heavenly Father will guide me. I choose to do what is important to me which includes creating family memories, spontaneity, laughter, daily walks, dinner time, and focusing on each other through pure love. I am safe in the process of becoming and my real goal is to live without fear. I live from a place of trust and love.

I choose gratitude in every moment. I choose to live on purpose and with intention. I will toot my own horn and be proud of my accomplishments. I have several callings that I love and fulfill such as being a wife, mother and friend; these callings do not define me. I am Megan and always will be. I completely love and accept myself. I am strong, loving and incomparable. I am ME.

“Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.” -Doris Mortman

“Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” -Rainer Maria Rilke

“Like the sky opens after a rainy day we must open to ourselves…Learn to love yourself for who you are and open so the world can see you shine.” -James Poland

Who I Am

Me and My Darling Niece.

EDITED: As a side note. Taking the Myers-Briggs Personality Test has been super helpful for me and other friends and family in discovering who you are. Answering the questions honestly (not what you think is a good answer), and reading up on your strengths and weakness (knowing that they are neither good or bad, just make up who you are), can help you find out what makes you tick, why you act the way you do and help you understand others with maybe whose relationships you struggle with. Just a thought in helping you become who you were meant to be, no matter the situation! And if you are wondering who I am, too bad! Just kidding. I have the ISFJ (assertive) personality. Now you know why I am so weird  😉

https://www.16personalities.com/

I believe in you. I believe you can make miracles happen. And I believe that peace (true inner peace) is the answer.