During 2013-2014 I took a life coaching course from Master Coach Kimberly Giles at Clarity Point Coaching (http://www.claritypointcoaching.com/). This was a three month course with a weekly phone call. I was hesitant to pay the price, but knew I needed help changing my mindset. I had been struggling with postpartum depression and knew that some of my suffering (though I still needed medication), was due to my ignorance, so-to-speak, of life. It was a life changing experience that helped me through some of life’s most difficult circumstances. I am and always will be grateful for Kim’s training. At the end of the training, Kim had me write a Who Am I paper. I used several of her words throughout her readings to create a piece of who I am. Kim gave me the permission to publish this article. I look back at what I wrote now 3 1/2 years ago. The amazing thing is I haven’t changed. This is still who I am. My value has never changed. Am I perfect at believing and acting upon these words? NO! Kim told me it would be a daily process as this life is a classroom. We are learning every day. Hope you can enjoy and maybe pull out some truths that ring true for you, as we are all created differently. WHO ARE YOU really??
Who Am I
The truth is-I am Megan Hastings. I am compassionate. I am beautiful inside and out. I am poised. I have characteristics and gifts that are unique only to me. I accurately see people for who they are. I value the need for meaning and clearly see who I am in this moment. I know my worth is absolute and infinite. I put problems and obstacles in proper perspective and I know good things always happen to me. I am a confident and honest woman who uses my knowledge to bless others.
I get to choose love motivation in everything I do. I have nothing to prove as I cannot fail. I look for opportunities to edify people every day. I ask questions to listen and validate people, thus choosing love. I see negative thoughts and emotions as they are…distractions. In every situation I choose to focus on validating others. When receiving validation, I always make it about others.
I no longer allow comparing of other people. I know this truth that, “The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you..except for yourself.” For this reason, I question my motivation for doing things. I will do things out of love and trust and because I want to. I will also claim the right to be quiet if that is how I feel. I do not allow the moods of others to influence mine. I know that we are all good people, we just struggle on occasion. When I see others as myself, I will see them with wisdom and compassion. When I serve God and myself first, I am able to help others.
I am creating the life I want right now. My purpose in life is to learn, which is why I will not let mistakes and weaknesses define me. I will set a new standard as I reclaim my power to choose my mindset. Though my subconscious mind is faster, my ability to consciously choose is always stronger. Suffering is created when I resist the process and the growth. I do not doubt my abilities and I do not shrink from my challenges. I trust God, the Universe and the process of life. I am strong because I choose trust. I know that with every fiber of my being that I was born to win. I know that I have the ability to create what I desire. I have free agency so I can decide who I want to be and live my life to the fullest.
I trust my first impressions because I trust myself and I trust that Heavenly Father will guide me. I choose to do what is important to me which includes creating family memories, spontaneity, laughter, daily walks, dinner time, and focusing on each other through pure love. I am safe in the process of becoming and my real goal is to live without fear. I live from a place of trust and love.
I choose gratitude in every moment. I choose to live on purpose and with intention. I will toot my own horn and be proud of my accomplishments. I have several callings that I love and fulfill such as being a wife, mother and friend; these callings do not define me. I am Megan and always will be. I completely love and accept myself. I am strong, loving and incomparable. I am ME.
“Until you make peace with who you are, you’ll never be content with what you have.” -Doris Mortman
“Do not seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” -Rainer Maria Rilke
“Like the sky opens after a rainy day we must open to ourselves…Learn to love yourself for who you are and open so the world can see you shine.” -James Poland
EDITED: As a side note. Taking the Myers-Briggs Personality Test has been super helpful for me and other friends and family in discovering who you are. Answering the questions honestly (not what you think is a good answer), and reading up on your strengths and weakness (knowing that they are neither good or bad, just make up who you are), can help you find out what makes you tick, why you act the way you do and help you understand others with maybe whose relationships you struggle with. Just a thought in helping you become who you were meant to be, no matter the situation! And if you are wondering who I am, too bad! Just kidding. I have the ISFJ (assertive) personality. Now you know why I am so weird 😉
I believe in you. I believe you can make miracles happen. And I believe that peace (true inner peace) is the answer.